We are thrilled to have Rochel Ferman, one of Los Angeles' top mommy consultants, onboard as a contributor to our blog. Through her company Make My Baby Smile, she provides moms with age-appropriate day and nighttime routines, techniques, and tips to help babies thrive. Today, she is writing about the struggle to find balance as a new mom. Check out her website to learn more about her and to read more of her helpful articles!
Before you had your little bundle of joy, you were a machine and you got everything done! Now since you had your little one, you get maybe one thing done in a day, and it's very hard on you.
Balancing everything as a new mom can be extremely difficult. We don’t even have enough time to shower properly, let alone go to the grocery store and bank, etc., because now you are a mom, and there is a baby girl or boy that is in your hands. Its pretty amazing if you think about it, at that moment this little one depends on you for every little thing. I know we can’t do the normal everyday errands like we use to but we are doing the big things, we are nurturing our little ones with everything they need in life. That is a full time job on its own!
Finding your own balance as a new mom will take time, so give it time. Before you know it you will be whipping through Costco with your little one and getting what you need to get done.
Here are some helpful hints:
- Have realistic goals of what you want to get done. Don’t put ten things down on your list because that’s not possible anymore but put the two main things down each day to do. Remember you have a little one to take care of, and that is very time consuming.
- Take advantage of the modern world. Use Amazon.com or Diapers.com and get your necessities delivered to your doorstep. You can subscribe to what you need and not even have to worry about it.
- Its ok to have help. We are only human and we all need sleep or just a break. So whether it is friends, family or a babysitter have your break and do something for mommy. We all need help sometimes and that is ok; we aren’t superwoman even though we want to be :)!
- Find support. Join a music class, mommy and me class, gym class or whatever you find fits your personality but being around other moms in the same situation at the same time with the same age babies will be very comforting and helpful.
- Get some rest. The laundry can wait a day, but a tired mommy is not a fun mommy nor a productive mommy, so sleep when you can in the early days. Sleep is needed and wanted.
Happy Balancing Act Mommies!